I have been talking with my friends in Japan often these days.
My morning is their night so I generally wake up early to talk with them, like 6AM.
It is such a victorious moment that I realize that I actually could do it - every time I wake up!
I have been missing my family and friends really bad these days.
I didn’t think it would happen to me, but after all I think this is what everyone has to experience when they are out of their home for so long.
My friends didn’t know about my emotional situation at all. Actually some of them thought I was doing awesome here and hence they planned this ZOOM gathering to celebrate my new start. Although I was not in a state of being very cheerful at that time.
I didn’t imagine how nice I would feel by talking with my friends!
I guess they know me well and understand me, hence they know what to say to me to bring me back on track. We spent time together back in Japan of course.
I also felt that, from the bottom of their hearts, they sincerely cared about me. It touched me deeply.
It was like a miracle. They wiped out all my negative thoughts within a few hours of chatting.
In my life, I have always been surrounded by my friends. No matter where I was, Japan, HK, China, Australia, wherever!
I could go see my friends whenever I wanted to.
Now under this corona situation, it is harder to meet people.
This is the first time in my life that I cannot see my friends, except my closest friend: my husband. Haha!
I still was doing okay without talking with anyone for a while but it didn’t last forever.
Friendship seems to be one of the necessary things for human beings to live well.
When I came to that point, needing to talk with my friends desperately, I thought about what friendship really meant to me.
It is not only to have fun with people. If it’s only for that, I don’t have to talk with them now as I can’t have fun with them; we are far apart.
Why I want to talk with them; I think, for me, because friends are those who share the same core values as mine, are pursuing something similar and/or have mutual respects. And most importantly thinking about each other’s happiness. They give me the feeling of being understood, being connected, being cared about, being loved and being accepted with whom I am.
Once one has the feeling of being understood, one can be more confident about who one is, and start moving on again.
It is like poles to support oneself, poles that grow up and up. I think that’s truly the best thing about friendship.
My friend told me, “you are not alone at all, so go for it!”
Friendship always encourages me, pulls me back on the right track if I am lost and makes me want to move on to get better and happier. That’s why it is so much fun for me to be with friends, I feel the change inside me.
I was thinking that, because I talked with my “Japanese” friends who have the same language and background as mine, I got my energy and motivations back, but actually I think this isn’t entirely true.
It doesn’t matter what nationality it is. (Actually, some of them are not from Japan) The true thing that I was missing was the feeling of being understood and the encouragement that I always get by just seeing them trying hard to achieve their goals.
My mentor always says friendship is a treasure. I truly agree with him.
For your sorrow I cry
For my joy you dance
Friendship is what one can’t buy, that is something one has to earn with one entire self. That is why it is so meaningful.
Cicero, a philosopher in Rome used to say;
“Robbing life of friendship is like robbing the world of the sun.”
Ah how much I love my friends.
I’m very glad my husband is also a good friend of mine as well as a great partner.
Thanks to them, my life is very much more colorful, fruitful and meaningful. :)
Nothing to ask more, really.
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